Quick Advice on Love

If you want someone to fall in love with you, don't just go out of your way to show him how special you think he is, or act out things you think will attract him. Go out of your way to show him how special you think YOU are. Love yourself.  Let others see that. "You teach others how to treat you."  Be genuine because if you can't back up what you sold upfront down the road, he will be deceived, and you will be replaced.  Have dignity; know when it is time to step away.  Show yourself some respect.  Know that you are amazing and worthy of love, so don't go out of your way to chase love around.  If you deserve it, it will chase you

Eternal (a letter to my sister)

If only I could save you.  If only I could somehow absorb and take away all the pain you've suffered.  If only I could protect you like I always wanted to.  I guess life has its twists and turns; one never ends up where planned.  I just really wish I could at least share, or help you with your burden.  It is so unfair sometimes, to have to drag along the heaviness of someone else's mistakes.  I just don't understand how you endure, how you go through with it.  I don't get where you find your strength.  I don't understand how your heart can still hold so much love.  So much pain and love it seems it's what it's made of.  Wow, I love you so much.  I need you in my life and I need to be in yours.  I wish you'd open up.  I wish you knew how loved you are, how bad I want to help.  I wish I could make you believe this, but my words are so weak... like I never really learned how to talk to you.  I feel so sad, I feel so hurt for you... so mad... so ready to give up.  I want to stay here, to stop running... I want to give up, to just do what I was born to.  I feel everything I've done is nothing, and everything I tried I failed.  But all I have is my love... It still exists... hungrier than ever.  Wanting today to finally show it.  I don't even know how.  I don't even think I have your trust.  I think it was just a moment... a moment for you to let go of some of that pain.  But how real is it?  I mean, How open are your arms?  Do you trust me? Do you even want me around?  I don't know why I've let this crumble.  I should've listened and paid closer attention.  I Hope my words don't sound so weak... I hope you truly know deep down how much I care.  I hope you know I'd do anything for you... because I love you.  The kind of love you don't need to be protected from.  Eternal... please believe it
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Regrets

No Regrets = Stupidity

regret

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noun

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sorrow,regret,rue,ruefulness

sadness associated with some wrong done or some disappointment;

Living life with no regrets isn’t something positive as many people treat it to be. Having no regrets is simply stupidity. It’s like someone running 10 miles and burning zero calories. The lessons in life are learned in those moments when we sit alone to reflect on our decisions, and to evaluate the consequences. Regretting is a part of the process, it is part of the test of life, it is the culmination of a deeper understanding, and a breaking point for genuine progress. Having regrets is vital for success, but dwelling on our mistakes and not forgiving ourselves is where the problem lays. It is our inability to forgive ourselves and accept our imperfections what holds us down in our upward journey to real success. People with no regrets don’t realize the source of their misfortune and their disappointments because they lack the understanding of what it is they’re doing wrong and what it takes to change and start seeing new results (positive results); they don’t know the problem, so they can’t fix it. Those are the people who live in vicious cycles, making the same mistakes over and over; they keep whining and not doing anything about it. So people, please… Stop saying “I live life with no regrets” like it’s something amazing and positive of your personality. Ponder,Regret, Forgive, Learn, Progress and Grow. In that order. Feel the sadness of your wrong doing (or disappointment) and embrace it, accept it, love yourself enough and grant yourself forgiveness. Gather the strength of your soul to start over and move forward, with a valuable lesson which will shape your character and make you a stronger individual; an individual with regrets, but also one with amazing power to learn from, overcome and conquer adversity.

Si te Consideras una Victima

No adopten nunca el papel de víctimas. Todo ser humano enfrenta adversidad en algún momento de su vida. Unos sufren más que otros, unos son victimados más que otros, pero solo los fuertes de carácter progresan. El problema ocurre cuando adoptamos este papel de víctima permanentemente. Claro que es cómodo serlo, pues, recibimos atención, cuidados, motivación, comprensión y amor. Nos acostumbramos a ello, lo disfrutamos, nos conformamos en vivir la vida siendo atendidos y pobreteados por los demás. Por lo regular, no enaltecemos a los que asumen sus responsabilidades, pues lo consideramos normal, por eso el papel de víctima es mucho más atractivo para muchos. Encontramos escusas para quedarnos viviendo este papel por largos periodos, o para muchos, toda la vida, pero olvidamos que ninguna persona con mentalidad de víctima puede cambiar o salir adelante sin superar esa etapa de estanque. Somos fuertes, hemos heredado fuerza no solo física, sino mental, y espiritual para enfrentar cualquier adversidad, y esto requiere disciplina, valor, dedicación, esperanza y mucho esfuerzo. Para muchos el cambio podría representar la perdida de la atención de muchos, pero a veces es necesario para desarrollar verdadera seguridad en uno mismo. El que hayamos sido maltratados, usados, violados, abusados, engañados, etc… no debe de volvernos inferiores, débiles o defectuosos. El abuso (de cualquier tipo) no es sinónimo de fracaso. El problema, la debilidad, la falta de fuerza de carácter, la falta de moral, y todas las deficiencias se le deben otorgar al agresor, no a la persona siendo abusada. Cambiemos la actitud y la genérica social de pobretearnos. Dejemos de vernos como víctimas, para poder movilizarnos hacia el éxito. Esa actitud de víctima es destructiva e inútil. Tantos centros de ayuda para victimas de esto y aquello, no quiero decir que sus intenciones sean malas, o que todos los lugares sean iguales, ni mucho menos que no deban de existir, pero hay muchos que se encargan de fomentar esta mentalidad en vez de realmente ayudar a las personas a salir adelante, superarse y volverse autosuficientes; sobreprotegen a muchos quienes acaban considerandose personas débiles. Debemos vernos como seres humanos fuertes, capaces, inteligentes, llenos de vida. Debemos sentirnos agradecidos por las experiencias, aperciar las enseñanzas, ser firmes y valientes en nuestra realización personal
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Buenas Intenciones

Ser negativo y quejumbroso para muchos puede ser gratificante, ya que reciben atención y tiempo de personas positivas que quieren ayudarles. La gente positiva ve como un desafío o proyecto la negatividad de otros, pues les hace feliz motivar o ayudar a los demás. Pero hay que recordar (ustedes, personas positivas), que solo ellos pueden ayudarse, o cambiar. La felicidad no es responsabilidad de terceros, si no de uno mismo personalmente. No malgasten tiempo ni energía en personas que solo buscan atención, y no un cambio genuino. Precisa darles espacio y tiempo para que ellos aprendan y tomen esa decisión. Si no tienen cuidado, podrían terminar hundidos como ellos, saqueados de su valiosa energía y abusados de sus buenas intenciones. La tolerancia compasiva también puede ser destructiva. Su amor por los demás, su corazón y sus buenas intenciones deben de ser valorados y respetados por todos, pero primeramente, por ustedes mismos. - Susana

Spelling!

So, I know after reading the last few blogs I've written, people are going to judge me as being a little too opinionated or judgmental.  I don't care.  Especially with this particular blog, I am hoping to do a good to the world. 

Many of you know about my spelling (and improper grammar) pet-peeve.  I especially hate when I, myself, don't know how to spell a certain word.  This is why I have a dictionary app on my phone, and I always bookmark my favorite website:www.wordreference.comon any computer or phone web browser I get my hands on.  I am not a perfect speller whatsoever, but I do have an interest in learning how to spell every single word I use.  With that being said, I am not against spelling errors, per se, as I am against people's indifference on the matter.  I have respect for those who do their research or ask around (I do that all the time!) before daring to post. I also have tolerance for hand-written errors, due to the lack of spell-check solutions, but what I don't understand is why many people dare to forsake the "Spell Check" option on their word processors! Especially when writing to pursue professional opportunities.

Even on an online posting, when seeking to network or exposure for whatever your career of choice might be, you can't write "I am very professional," and misspell a word in the same paragraph.  Seriously!  That would be some sort of oxymoron. Not only that, but if you’re in sales, don’t you dare misspell the word “customer.” If you are indeed a professional, you would know your business, you would be familiar with all the terms associated with it, and know the meaning and spelling of all the vocabulary involved in that field, right? People, come on!

Treat each posting as a Letter of Interest.

If you can't spell your way out of a paper bag, that's ok, please don't get defensive with me.  I am not judging you personally.  Chill out!  My sister sucks at it.  (Sorry sis! I'm throwing you under the bus but it's all for a good cause, I promise!).  So, at least opt for a Spell Checker; they aren't all that bad.

If you’re curious to know what I was referring to, this is what happened: I landed on a “professional” model’s online profile where I read the “I am very professional,” followed by some context and the word “camra.” (You mean camera, miss professional?). Wow.

The End.

((Now clicking “Spell Check”))

Yaaay! “The Spelling and Grammar Check is Complete!”

Happy writing!

 

 

Oh wait... I mean... if you do find a spelling error on here it's because I was just doing it to prove a point...

 

OK?
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On Bella Swan (Blog Reply)

My response to a great blog I read by Chris Foukas.

check it out:http://foukasin.blogspot.com/

Wow, you had me rolling!  Very, very funny... and let me just say, I've read all the books, and I'M TOTALLY WITH YOU.  Not only that, but my biggest problem is with Bella's character.  I mean come on! I also disagree with the previous comment.  If you analyze her character, she's the kind of girl that no one in their senses should feel attracted to (unless she at least shows intentions of changing, of course).  She's plain. Not only does she not care about the way she looks, but she still acts like she's too cool for the rest of the world. She's not friendly, she's somewhat of an anti-social, introverted, geeky, clumsy, lacks empathy, doesn't know what she wants out of life, doesn't focus on goals of herself,  she just happens to be somewhat smart and able to memorize cool book quotes (geez, so what?).  But come on, really?  Typical men aren't even attracted to smart women (duh lol).  Most are intimidated by smart women, so yeah, so unrealistic.  She's not described anywhere in the book as physically beautiful or attractive (by a neutral character anyway), and you can't argue with me that she has a great personality because that is just NOT the case.  She's fake to her friends, and condescending. She avoids what any positive, happy person would consider enjoyable activities or things like: prom, birthday party, presents, even food at times.   She’s portrayed to be so mature, but then again, she acts like a normal irresponsible teenager too (jumping off a cliff, the whole motorcycle incident, her fatalistic and over-dramatic romance, etc.) She's so concerned about Edward and Edward only.  The typical female when in love, she wants to be all about him, change to be perfect for him and "fit" in his world (become a vampire).   She contradicts herself by being so aware of the vampire's physical beauty when she doesn't even wear make-up or ever say anything that would indicate that she cares about her looks.  I just see somewhat of a discrepancy there.  Isn't this another reason why she wants to become a vampire?  to not get old and be ‘beautiful’ forever?  Why doesn't she start by wearing a little make-up, wearing more age appropriate clothes, fixing her hair?  About her weird personality, please don't try to defend her by stating the situation she lives concerning her divorced parents, and how poor Bella is the way she is because of the situation, because it is NOT that tragic. That's why I don't get why everyone in the story is so in love with her.  Ugh!  You mean to tell me that Edward, who's been alive for over a century, who has had the opportunity to travel all over the world and meet all kinds of people (perhaps a combination of beauty and brains) ended up in love (oh so in love) with someone like Bella? I mean with his "power" I'm sure he could have found someone with better insights than Bella.  Oh yeah, he can't even hear her thoughts... Why? Well, maybe because there aren’t any worth listening to.  LOL, ok, ok. So yeah she's smart, and she's mysterious; she might represent a challenge for him and that's what he's attracted to, but still, she’s so overrated. haha, Ok I'm like going on and on... I might have to create a blog myself
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