History is Not Destiny

A few days ago I contemplated the idea that in times of vulnerability, we opt to expose ourselves in different, not necessarily destructive ways.  It might be because our loneliness impulses us to express ourselves more openly to perhaps connect with others who might be able to relate to us, therefore achieving a connection or affirmation that we are not alone after all. 

Be that as it may, there are others who do the exact opposite and build walls or close up emotionally to protect themselves from potential judgments. Or we can do a combination of the two. I guess where I am going with this is the realization that I am, -as many others out there are- on a quest to invent myself, to earn self-worth and and to find the courage to maintain an adequate self-esteem. 

Anyway, exposed or not, I realize I’ve limited myself from growing or overcoming insecurities and obstacles with the excuse that my past hurts and negative experiences have traumatized me, changed me and brought me down. The cause is not an excuse. 

So, as I always tell my blog readers: be aware that the majority of my blogs are not logical, they are more like an abstract art, learn to appreciate it and respect it. There are those types of blogs that must not be taken literally; there are those in which I have to write as if it was about my personal experience, when in actuality are based on someone else’s experience(s). I am not afraid to expose myself in ways in which I feel are constructive to others. I understand that I am not always positive when I write, but in every sad poem or writing of mine, there is a hope-inviting line. I hope those who read what I write take the time to read between the lines, not only to get to know me –since this isn’t exactly my mission- but to induce some personal insight that may benefit them.

More than explaining myself, I am trying to make people realize that before we judge others, we must strive to understand what is behind their behavior.  Developing empathy and understanding of other people's needs helps us grow as individuals. 
 

I am getting a little off the subject, my apologies. Back to saving our self-esteem! Yaaaay! LOL. My initial point of this blog was to introduce something I read and loved. So, without further a due, here it is:

“Past hurts don’t excuse present cowardice.”

“I am not denying the negative impact of early family crises, disruption, or destructiveness. History is not destiny. You have free will to overcome, grow, change: Invent yourself.”

(both quotes are from Dr. Laura Schlessinger)

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