Ok, we don't care so much about your skin as much as we care about your attitude towards us.
Guys, you can tell when we like you and when we don't. Please, if you know we don't like you... don't push it. You will only make us unconfortable and push us farther away. If you know we don't like you, try to become our friend, but a real friend with no hidden intentions, because we can tell when you're using the whole "friend" thing to get what you want. Or just move on and leave us alone.
Don't feel offended and don't take it personal... We all deserve the right to like whomever we want. We are all guilty of saying no to somebody that we don't feel attracted to. Maybe you've got personality, and that's good... but if there's no physical attraction it will just not work... we all know it, and it's not that we're superficial, it's just that we're human.
But if we do like you and accept a date...
If you know you're hot and sexy that's COOL. But it takes a lot more than that to please a woman. Yes maybe you're tall and handsome, but can you carry on a good intelligent conversation. Can you teach me something? (outside of the bedroom), Can I teach you something? Are you available? We don't just want sex... we want something more. Something that NOT A LOT OF GUYS are able to provide: commitment, security, trust, loyalty, respect, honesty, future...
We want to be appreciated and valued. We like when you are inquisitive because you show that you care about us and are interested in learning more about what we're all about. If a guy is only interested talking about himself and all he's done and been through, it's turn-off.
When you ask questions, ask the right ones. We don't want to talk about something that is interesting just to us... so don't pretend like you want to know about our hair, skin care, clothing, etc. Ask about our life and our experiences, and yes, we're emotional but we also like to talk about logic stuff. We want to be able to say what we know, what we're educated on, and what we're interested in.
If you are going to say something that we have not asked you, it's ok... as long as you follow it with a question... or maybe I should say... as long as you include us in your conversation and not make it a monologue.
Maybe many girls do, but I don't really care about the type of car you drive, or sports. I mean yes, I can hear about the sports you like, what you play, what you watch, your team, but don't make it lengthy and detailed because I don't know about sports, and I really don't care to learn.
If you've tried cold reading and it has worked, good for you. I don't really appreciate a guy pretending to know me and "safe guessing" everything about me. It's just stupid. I rather have a nice conversation with somebody who will ASK me questions to better get to know me... instead of just trying to be a show off and make statements about me without even knowing my name, or my background. It's not sexy (at least to me it's not).
Honestly, I do care to know what you do for a living, and the education you've got. I'm not a gold digger... but if I'm to consider something serious with you, I would love to feel secure and protected by -not necessarily a wealthy- but a hard-working, responsible man. But please don't brag about your accomplishments as if you were the only one available with high achievements. If you have not achieved your goals, don't get discouraged... I also admire people who have dreams, goals and plans to achieve them. We all need some time and we all deserve a chance.
I don't want to know every little thing about your past relationships... but come on, let's be honest... we do care to know about those important relationships you've been involved in. If you're capable of commiting yourself to one person, we value that. But don't sit there and talk for hours about your ex and show us that you're not over her and you're just wasting our time.
It's okay to meet different people and get to know different girls before you make a decision. But the moment you say you want something more with one person, and you want a kiss, some more, or if you actually do mention the word "relationship" then you better stop looking around.
The most important thing I want is a guy to be totally HONEST. I would rather be with a guy who can say, "You know what, I've had fun with you and I want to go out again with you to get to know you more, but I want to take things slow and have my space to go out with other friends and maybe other girls" than have a guy say "Do you believe in love at first sight? I think we're meant for each other, you're the one for me." This is good for a soap opera but it's not genuine and honest.
We like sense of humor. We don't like fake, trying-to-hard sense of humor. That's just pathetic. If you lack of something, then look for something else in your personality that can make up for that, because we all are not perfect and we need to do this. We all have different qualities, but we can't try so hard to be something that we're not. If you're not funny, you are probably smart, and we like that too. Or if you're funny and not too smart, then don't try to be the opposite.
We are all about girl power and independence, but we still expect good manners from the men. You don't have to open the door for us, if you're not feeling it, but you need to be respectful, appropriate, polite.
Is this too much to ask? Not really. It's just many words to say basic stuff that you might have already known.
Do you think I'm forgettin about what guys want?
Most men want an intelligent women who at the same time can be submissive. They expect loyalty and respect. Men want a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets, someone who can deliver in the bedroom. They want someone who will give them their space; to be able to play their sports, go out with their friends, who will not expect them to talk as much as they do. Men look for a woman who can take care of the home and the kids, although they might say something like "I know how to cook and I will help out" but in the back of their minds, they don't function like this, they don't like to do the housekeeping. They want someone sexy and cute, with brains.
So yes we know what we need to do, but we won't do it until you are willing to do the same. It's a vicious cycle. It's about two, it's about commitment.
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