New Year

I can't even remember what my new year's resolution was for this year that flew by so quickly.  This probably means that I didn't achieve it.  In fact, I think 2006 was a rough year for me, there was too much going on.  I lost more than I gained...and it sucks 'cause I'm not talking about weight.  I'm happy to have another chance, to start over and to learn from whatever will come up on my way...again.

I hope that all of you, whoever's reading this, have a happy new year 2007 and that you get a chance to make your goals happen.  One thing that I will do differently this new years' is that I will write down what I want to accomplish next year.  I will try to revisit this list of things every day and stick to my plan.  It's hard, but it's possible.

May all your dreams come true; but before that happens, turn your dream into a goal, then your goal into a plan, then your plan into action, and good luck!

Men

MEN 101
Current mood: contemplative

A women's greatest challange is to understand men.  There's a time in a women's life where it's better to give up on the idea of making sense of how men think and act.  This is what I'm going through right now.

I got up this morning and thought... what is wrong with him?.  Here's more of my unorganized thoughts about them...

My dear readers, the main lesson I've learned from men is that we'll never completely understand them, but ironically, they are so predictible and this leaves us with a great advantage.

I'm no feminist, but in my relationship bible you'll find teachings from Patricia Evans and Susan Forward.  Thanks to the aid of their books I've learned about certain fases of a man's obsession when you try to leave them.

KEY POINTS TO REMEMBER...

1. Men who love ACT... not re-act.

     - A man who loves you nourishes the relationship by taking care of  you.  He will want to serve, protect, and respect you without an external reason.  A man who is romantic, or becomes respectful and caring... as a result of your rejection, your indifference or your break up is just in a "worm phase."  (more on this by request)

2. Men NEED to control

     - Just as our body needs water, men need to control.  We can't ignore the fact that without men's ambition for power we would not stand where we stand  today technologically and economically speaking.  Unfortunately, not every man who walks in this planet gets to experience the feeling of power and fulfillment through achievements in these fields; instead, some men redirect their ambition for power over women.  Why? because we are emotionally vulnerable beings.  These men are not strong enough to build their character and transform this need to control into something constructive... like becoming a CEO, manager, succeed in any career or profession or... the most important of all GAIN POWER OVER THEMSELVES.

These men, that have yet to "find themselves" will become "prince charming" as a result of their loss of control over your feelings.  Especially for women, this is a very important phase to recognize, because here's  when we believe the biggest lie of all -a lie that even him will believe- that he loves us.

This is probably getting too complicated, even to me... cause I think quicker than I can type or express myself.  But I hope this next analogy helps us all understand love a little better.

Have you been to Niagara falls? I haven't.  I have seen them in videos and pictures...and here's my impression.

What amazes me the most, is the amount of water that keeps falling down.  Every single second, minute, night and day, never stopping, never taking a break.  Real love is like this.  Yes, there's rocks along the way.  Rocks are harder than water, but water is strong, it polishes the stones... over the years.  Water is not stopped by the rocks.  Water keeps moving forward... Love is never ending.  Eternal.